How to Plan the Perfect Bachelorette Party: Eliminating the Drama

It is offically bachelorette party season!!! If you have a spring/early summer wedding the bachelorette party should be just around the corner, and if you have a late summer/early fall wedding the planning for it should be in high gear.  I have sooo much to say on the topic that I have decided to start a new series entirely. 

Before any planning takes place I think its important to understand the goals of the weekend:

1. Make sure the bride has the best girls weekend of her life
2. Make sure the bride has the best girls weekend of her life
3. Make sure the bride has the best girls weekend of her life

Okay, now that we all understand the goals we can continue with the first phases of planning.
Each bride is different so it is her responsibility to voice who she wants to plan the weekend.  She may want to plan the entire weekend herself, if so good for her.  She may want all her bridesmaids to plan together.  Often, she gives this responsibility to her maid(s) of honor and the MOH decides if she wants to do it herself or turn to the bridal party for help.

I have been in all three situations.  When my sister got married she asked me to plan it, I had never been to a bachelorette party before so I had to turn to those girls in her bridal party that knew how to plan a bachelorette party in Vegas.  Another time a bride didn't have a MOH so she planned a lot of the weekend on her own and then us bridesmaids planned the rest of it all together.  I have also been to a few where the MOH does most of her planning on her own.

If you are in any of these situations you might feel stressed, if you are caught feeling you have to plan it all on your own PLEASE ASK FOR HELP!  Odds are the group doesn't want to step on your toes, but they are more than willing to help with anything you need.  If someone else is planning the entire weekend and you have an idea, don't hold it in I promise she will want to hear from you.  It is important to communicate what you are feeling.  Again, the main goal is to plan the best weekend for your friend.  So its time to eliminate all the drama.

I promise you won't be stepping on any toes if you throw out suggestions.  For example, I have been to a few bachelorette parties in Miami where I was not in charge of planning.  Well, my family has a condo in Miami and I spend a lot of time there.  I made sure to voice my opinion and offer any help I could and I have never felt uncomfortable.  Both times they were so glad to hear what I had to say and we did what I suggested and everyone had a great time.  Another example is the bachelorette party in Austin I went to last weekend, I went to school there and I knew what would make for a great weekend, so I made sure to express it.

Okay, so now maybe I am just going off on a tangent, but I know how stressful the planning process can get so I wanted to lay it all out on the table before I get to the fun stuff.  It is important to understand that you are not alone in planning it and everyone understands the end goal.

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I have so much information to share on this subject so if you have any questions or need any advice please let me know and I will be sure to address it in the next entry.  Stay tuned for suggestions, ideas and ways to not break the bank when planning the perfect bachelorette party!